Some things you shouldn’t read at the beach.
This past week, as I’ve been monitoring our four children in the Florida surf, a friend of mine posted this frightening piece that challenges the myth about what a drowning person actually looks like (read here).
In short: drowning doesn’t look like drowning.
When someone is drowning there is very little splashing, and no waving or yelling or calling for help of any kind.
In 10 percent of those drownings [involving children], the adult will actually watch them do it, having no idea it is happening.
Except in rare circumstances, drowning people are physiologically unable to call out for help. The respiratory system was designed for breathing. Speech is a secondary or overlaid function. Breathing must be fulfilled before speech occurs.
Drowning people cannot wave for help. Nature instinctively forces them to extend their arms laterally and press down on the water’s surface.
So, if a crewmember falls overboard and everything looks okay, don’t be too sure. Sometimes the most common indication that someone is drowning is that they don’t look as if they’re drowning. They may just look as if they are treading water and looking up at the deck. One way to be sure? Ask them, “Are you alright?”
Drowning does not look like drowning.
BEYOND THE WATER
My main takeaway–strange as this may sound–is that it applies on land too.
Last year, I wrote a piece entitled “American Suicide” (here) just after the death of Anthony Bourdain. I loved Bourdain. But one thing that struck me is that so many of his friends claimed later that they had never seen him so happy. This is not uncommon.
Because drowning doesn’t look like drowning.
Once, while on vacation, we visited a very large church (You don’t know it; it’s located on one of the moons of Saturn). They had just completed a building program. The place was bustling. But the pastor’s sermon gave clear evidence that it had been mostly prepared the night before.
Each illustration was a story from the prior 48 hours. He was a very gifted speaker. Then he mentioned that he had preached the funeral of 20-something young man the day before. As a preacher myself, I recognized the signs of burnout.
When I heard then of the pastor’s DUI arrest, I wasn’t shocked.
Drowning doesn’t look like drowning.
I could repeat these “dry-land” examples till the tide comes in.
Anxiety. Addiction. Marital strife. Infertility. Grief.
In so many of these cases, drowning doesn’t look like drowning.
And in some ways, the advice of the article holds true here as well:
“They may just look as if they are treading water and looking up at the deck. One way to be sure? Ask them, ‘Are you alright?’”
There are some things that you should remember in more places than just the beach.
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